Fear = Resistance
I see this equation frequently in my work. Most of the time, leaders come to me when they’re facing big challenges or roadblocks. They’re stuck and unable to break through. I’m there to guide them from where they are to where they want to be—to help them get unstuck and transform their companies into high-performance organizations. Most know that our engagement will require commitment and work. My team and I are there to be their partner. We’re on the same side. That’s why I’m always surprised when some leaders walk into our sessions armed for battle like I’m the enemy. Why? Fear. It’s normal. It’s our default response as humans. I get it, but fear equals resistance, so we have to build trust and learn how to override our knee-jerk, autopilot reactions. It takes practice, and it’s definitely achievable.
Some fear loss of control. Others are afraid to take a hard look in the mirror. Still others feel frustration, anger, or hopelessness.They struggle to shake the negative worldview and practices that led them to our meeting in the first place. Deep down, many are simply worried about having what it takes to achieve personal and organizational transformation. They aren’t sure they’re up to the task and fear failure and loss of face. At least right now, I have command and control, they tell themselves. So strong is the negativity that they would rather ignore that things aren’t working and that their company is headed for trouble than submit to the vulnerability required for meaningful change. This isn’t a judgement; it’s just a statement about how most of us live due to the power of our wiring and years of reinforced behaviors. We hold tight to what we know—even amid decline or imminent collapse—because it feels safer, even though it’s not.
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