This 20-year-old college junior is struggling to resolve a dilemma. She has a vision of leaving her small-town to have “an amazing” career in a big city and see the world, but she fears that not marrying her boyfriend now will mean missing out on the rewards of having a loving husband and family. She asks, “What do you think is best in the long run?”
Tricia also gives some important background information that makes it easy to answer her question based on what I learned when I asked this question: "What do you wish you had known before you got married?" many women told me "I wish I had known more about myself," and "I wish I had waited." She is in danger of doing what she thinks she supposed to do and regretting it later.
However, it's very important for women to take responsibility for making their own decisions. Instead of telling her what to do, I would point out that she's already given me the important information that she can use to decide what would be best in the long run.
Tricia has already told me:
What I suspect is that what she is actually afraid of is that this will be her only chance to marry someone she loves. She's also afraid of disapproval; the disapproval of her parents, her boyfriend's parents and her friends.
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