The wedding is scheduled in four months and Elizabeth asks desperately, "Is there anything I can do to make this work?" Elizabeth and her fiancé have had an on-again off-again relationship for 13 years that started when she was only 15. As the wedding date gets closer his bad behavior has been getting worse.
Elizabeth writes, "He disrespects me, makes jokes about me, puts me down and curses at me when he gets upset. He even kicked a hole in the wall after I got upset because he was cursing at me!" She concludes her appeal for help by saying, "I'm very concerned because we are getting married in four months."
She also writes that she has an appointment with a counselor very soon. That's fortunate because I'm sure her counselor will tell her that no matter how far along the wedding planning has gone and how painful, embarrassing, difficult and potentially expensive it will be to cancel this wedding that's exactly what needs to happen.
Even if her fiancé is behaving badly because he is stressed by the approaching wedding or by Elizabeth's stress about the wedding, he is displaying his anger in extremely immature and dangerous ways. This is an important sign of a potentially abusive relationship. Even if he promises to reform, which appears extremely unlikely, the changes he needs to make before Elizabeth can be safe in his company will take far longer than four months to learn and solidify. And right now, it does not appear that he is even admitting that he has done anything wrong.
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