Letting It Go

Energy Gets Stuck

You may think it is normal and unavoidable to feel stressed out or hurt or anxious about various situations in your life. When you examine those things you discover that they have already happened or you believe they will happen sometime in the future. Most people you encounter probably agree that those reactions are just a necessary part of living. And the stress and drama are certainly major elements of the stories we love to watch in the media.

The truth is that most of this suffering is completely unnecessary. Sadly, it is hard to opt out of this pervasive cultural belief system. It’s hard to even imagine what life would be like without all this drama. Part of the reason for this is almost everyone believes that the distress they experience as adults is caused by the various challenges they encounter in their daily lives.

Another way of looking at the situation is that if we had all of our life energy available to us, we could easily manage most uncomfortable situations. Then the challenge becomes locating and reclaiming our life energy that has somehow been misplaced during the course of our lives.

Over-Reacting Means Energy is Stuck

Sometimes you respond to challenges and forget they were stressful; the ones you over-react to are the problem.

My friend and I both over-reacted to minor stress – stressful situations that most people would simply respond to and forget about. We each got stuck in our own past life experiences. We each had forgotten about the old situations but our energy about those incomplete experiences and our emotions associated with them held us in the past instead of letting us solve problems in the present moment and forget about them.

Can you tell when you are over-reacting? Over-reacting is a good signal that you are reacting to something else. Signals that you are over-reacting include:

• You just can’t stop thinking about something. You keep trying to think about something else but you always come back to rethinking the same situation over and over again.

• You always get upset (angry, teary, worried) when you are reminded about someone, someplace, or some event, even if it happened a long time ago.

• Anniversaries or other reminders of difficult experiences are difficult for you.

• You get physically uncomfortable (butterflies, tension headaches, pounding heart) when you need to talk to someone—often an authority figure.

• You get your feelings hurt easily.

• You have an intense reaction (anger, sadness, fear) because of something someone else says or does.

• You feel very judgmental in response to certain ordinary situations like traffic or others making mistakes.

These over-reactions are examples of your life energy being stuck.