Trigger: Replaying a Recent Memory
Here’s another example, a story, of someone replaying a memory of a recent event.
Yvonne invited her daughter and son-in-law to an expensive restaurant to celebrate his birthday. Instead of ordering entrées and desserts as she had expected, they each ordered several expensive appetizers, along with their entrées and desserts. A lot of the extra food was left uneaten, on the table.
She felt angry and taken advantage of, but couldn't figure out what to do about the situation. She replayed it in her mind over and over again, and complained to friends, "I just can't get it out of my head."
Yvonne’s answer to question one was “this scene that is stuck in my head.” Her answer to what happened just before she replayed the scene was that she felt angry because she had been taken advantage of. Feelings are normally temporary and don’t make good triggers. Her trigger was “this belief about how they should have behaved at the restaurant.”
After she completed the sentences with this trigger she said calmly, “I won’t be inviting them to any more meals in expensive restaurants.”
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