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Laurie Weiss
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Letting It Go
Self-Help
Author Insight
Release Self-limiting Beliefs
What do you believe that is keeping you from enjoying your life? I am not talking about something you have concluded from your own experience. I mean a belief you accepted from someone else without thinking about it. It might be something you heard when you were small. I was told I was clumsy by loving parents, and I believed it until one day someone I respected asked me “who told you that you were clumsy?” The truth is that I never learned some physical skills because I was expected to “act like a lady” so most physical activity was discouraged. When I did try things, of course I looked clumsy, and they commented on it. When I did get to a school where gym class was required, I was always picked last for team sports. That reinforced the belief that I was indeed clumsy. It took me many years to learn to overcome that old belief and still more to become skilled in some physical activities. I loved aerobic step classes when I was in my 40s. Now, when I discover an old, unexamined belief that holds me back from enjoying something, I try using the “magic sentences” I teach in “Letting It Go,” and often, the conviction I once held simply vanishes. When I explore the new activity with someone who is willing to teach me about it, I often enjoy it. Logosynthesis helps you release more than stress and anxiety. Get the book and try it yourself.
Book Excerpt
Letting It Go
Target: A Fantasy About the Future
A common problem is that your protective brain imagines that a problem or situation that happened in the past will be repeated and does its best to keep you out of trouble.
Marie was told repeatedly by the Nuns at school that it was important to dress modestly. She never broke the rules. As an adult, she is very uncomfortable wearing the attractive, stylish clothing her friends enjoy. Her target was “this fantasy that the Nuns will punish me.” After she finished saying the sentences she announced that she was going shopping.
Target: An Attempt to Change the Past
You can also create toxic stress by repeatedly trying to solve an impossible problem like getting a dead parent to change something she did when she was alive.
Ron often replayed the scene of his mother giving away his comic books, told others the story and insisted that he could never forgive her, even though she had died 10 years earlier. We suggested that he could retrieve his energy from “this belief that mother should have been different.”
After he used that target in the sentences he said, “She was only 27 and had three kids in a one-bedroom apartment.”
More Sample Targets
Here is a list of 50 other targets used by real people in some of our workshops.
1. This image of her standing there screaming at me (the employee having a major freak out).
2. The voice of (a person in memory) scolding me.
3. This belief that I should be able to handle negativity.
4. This weight on my shoulders (the migraine pain that takes me out of my life).
5. This pressure, tension and tightness in my chest.
6. All of the times when I haven’t been heard.
7. The time I wasn’t listened to.
8. This belief that I’m supposed to be in charge of this process.
9. All of the fantasies that get in the way
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