Letting It Go

Since you are working with your energy and not your story when using Logosynthesis, this is a lot easier than it sounds here. You create your story as a way to make sense of the world you experience—everybody does. Three people exposed to the same event usually create different stories.

I once had a vivid reminder of this in my own life. I grew up in a family that was mostly loving and supportive but imperfect as all families are. From my current perspective, I can tell myself the story that my father was the somewhat indulged youngest of seven children. Sometimes, when he did not get his own way he yelled almost as if he was a four-year-old having a temper tantrum.

After my father died, my sister, my brother and I were reminiscing about growing up with his occasionally yelling at us. When he yelled, the story I told myself from the time I was a small child until I was in my 40s was that something was wrong with me that I needed to correct. The story my sister told herself was that her father was being silly and she could ignore him until he calmed down again. The story my brother told himself was that his father was angry and should be avoided. It was the same father.

Since I couldn’t cope with his yelling, I apparently froze a lot of energy about my experiences of it in order to protect myself. I was amazed when I learned that my siblings had so little reaction to the same events.

Since your stories are rather arbitrary, in this kind of work they are important only to point you to where your energy is frozen so you can create an appropriate target to work with. Then you no longer need the stories and you certainly do not need to go deeply into the most painful parts of the stimulus for those stories.

Note: If your stories are about events that newspapers would now call child abuse, or other trauma, it would be better to do this work with a trained professional. A guide to resources is at the end of the book. Logosynthesis in the hands of a trained professional has more complexity than I am describing here. As a professional myself, I experience it as a banquet. I am giving you more of a fast food version to help you manage ordinary toxic stress and anxiety and other everyday problems.

One of the most common mistakes almost everyone seems to make when learning to use this process is to focus too much on those stories we use to justify our reactions to our frozen energy. We frequently need to remind our workshop participants and clients that “It’s not about the story.”

Experience Using Logosynthesis

It’s time to try it for yourself.

You can do this either alone or with a partner. All you need is about 20 minutes of uninterrupted time and a location where you can speak aloud without disturbing others. Read through to the end of this chapter before you start.

Here is a very brief summary of the highlights of this process.

A (Very) Brief Guide to Using Logosynthesis

Logosynthesis is a model for guided change that uses three important sentences, spoken aloud:

The “I” in each sentence refers to your Essence—the part of you that is an expression of all that is—your Higher Self—your true Self. Some might call it ‘basic goodness’ and others call it your soul.

A brief statement of “your target“ goes in the brackets in each sentence. Your target is a memory, fantasy or belief that is related to your frozen energy and is causing you distress. It could be whatever you can’t get out of your mind or “makes you crazy” or distracts you or keeps you from connecting to your Essence.

Say each sentence out loud; pause between the sentences and notice what thoughts, feelings, images, etc., come to you. Don’t try to understand the meaning of the sentences, just let the words work.