Letting It Go

You Freeze Energy to Protect Yourself

We need to face stress and learn to manage it in our lives in order to grow up and do our life’s work. But it isn’t easy and the resources you gather along the way may not be enough at any particular time. When you can’t use the stress you encounter to stimulate your own growth, that stress becomes toxic for you.

That’s when you split off parts of yourself and freeze your energy around them because they are too hard to manage. You do this when your experience of your world seems overwhelming. You aren’t alone. We all do it.

It does take courage to heed those signals. You froze your energy for a good reason—at least it seemed like a good reason at the time. You froze it to protect yourself from the pain of the stress you did not have the resources to manage and the pain that resulted from your helplessness. Now you may feel a deep sense of dread at the very idea of going into those deeply protected places where your monsters still hide.

Recovering Frozen Energy Can Be Easier Than You Imagine

As a long-time practitioner of psychotherapy, a large part of my job used to be to keep my clients safe while they explored those scary places. When I was just starting to use Logosynthesis in my practice a young woman was referred to me because she had recently revealed a history of sexual abuse to her school counselor. I estimated that her treatment would take about six months.

The abuse had occurred from the time she was five years old until she was eleven. A teenage uncle, part of a large, close, extended family, had been her babysitter and often forced her to engage in inappropriate sexual contact. When I asked why she had not told anyone about the abuse, she said she had kept it secret