Several years ago Brian Klemmer, an experienced change facilitator, wrote a book titled, If How-Tos Were Enough We Would All Be Skinny, Rich and Happy. If you have ever experienced being unsuccessful at following someone’s instructions to “Just let it go!” often spoken in annoyance, you know that it takes more than willpower to let go of some kinds of distress.
That is true even if you really, really, really want to let it go. Somehow things seem to stick to you: hurt feelings because of real or imagined mistreatment, the thought of something bad happening to someone you love or a song you just can’t seem to get out of your head. You even tell yourself “Forgive and forget, just let it go, just move on,” but it's hard to do.
Holding On is Easier than Letting Go
The truth is that you have not been taught to use “letting go tools.” In fact, you come into the world with “holding on tools.” Your brain has evolved for survival! It notices every source of danger and stores it (or freezes it) so that you can quickly recognize danger without having to stop and think about it. It is automatic.
Automatic was wonderful when our human race evolved in the jungle and
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