Discovering What’s Right for You
Ideally, you should now be able to use your inner guidance system to help you find what satisfies you. However, that guidance system probably provides misinformation. It’s inaccurate because it’s like a compass next to a magnet. Family, cultural and advertising messages you’ve been exposed to are pulling it off course.
It’s hard to know what’s just right for you now. You did when you were small and complained bitterly when your environment was not just right for you, but since then you’ve been “civilized,” programmed according to the expectations of people and the world around you.
Instead of paying attention to your internal awareness of “just right,” you pay attention to what influential people in your life and the media have told or demonstrated to you about how much you should have.
Learn to Notice Your Own Behavior
When your energy is flowing freely you respond to your own biological and emotional signals in the moment. You feel hunger and fatigue as physical sensations. You get what you need, whether it is food, rest, contact with others or time alone to pursue your life’s work.
Generally, when those signals arise again, you repeat the process. You are also aware of the needs of others and learn to modify your own flow to not interfere with theirs. Sometimes you choose to interrupt your own flow temporally but get back to it as soon as you can.
Sometimes though, you do things just because you have gotten into the habit of doing them. They might have started in response to a natural energy flow—like stopping for a cup of coffee when you were tired. The first time, you enjoyed the coffee and felt re-energized and went on about your day.
The next day, instead of stopping because you were tired, you saw the coffee shop, remembered the pleasant visit the day before, and stopped again. Soon you, like Anita, were stopping there every day and it no longer had any connection to your own energy flow. You barely noticed the activity.
Anita was surprised when she realized how much time and money she was using for a daily coffee break that had no real value to her. She recognized that she was responding to advertising (outside energy) that promoted the idea that she deserved a small luxury that would make her feel happy.
Once she realized that she was doing what was being programmed instead of noticing what her own energy prompted her to do, she decided to take a break only when she noticed that she really wanted to. She started enjoying her occasional coffee shop visits again.
It is worth noticing how many things you do are a result of responding to energy that intrudes into your personal space.
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