Your financial life is influenced by a story you probably don’t even know much about.
It’s the story of what your life was going to be like that you created before you were 10 years old. You might have revised the story as a teenager and then forgotten about it, but there are various techniques available to help you rediscover it.
You created your story from many factors that included:
These decisions may also relate to the times your life energy froze to protect yourself from situations you could not manage with your available resources.
Consequences of Triggering Frozen Life Energy
So long as you follow the script you created for your life story, you are probably fairly comfortable with it. But if you veer off your chosen path, you may encounter unexpected challenges.
Helena was very comfortable with her decision to enter medical school. Both of her parents were medical doctors and she had grown up just assuming that she would also become a doctor. Everything went smoothly and she spent about 20 years fulfilling what she believed was her destiny.
But when she felt forced to work under increasingly difficult circumstances as a doctor, she grew disillusioned with how her field had changed and seriously considered new opportunities outside of the medical profession. She struggled with her new impulses and became extremely uncomfortable and indecisive. She was trying to move outside her life story and meeting both internal and external resistance.
The external resistance came from family and colleagues urging her to keep practicing medicine. After all, she was so good at it, was well respected, had a secure income and so forth.
The internal resistance was more of a surprise. She imagined terrible scenarios of being destitute and losing the respect of and being shunned by her family and friends. She kept wanting to change but did nothing about it.
Helena, like most people, was unaware that she had frozen parts of herself that did not fit with her own and other people’s expectations of her. It was these frozen parts that she had put aside to follow a narrow life path that others had rewarded her for choosing.
Now, new circumstances were triggering awareness of those frozen parts. The triggers, represented as frightening scenarios of the future, were now intruding into her wish to change her life.
Another way of describing this situation is that Helena had been doing what was expected of her throughout her life and was only now feeling the urge to listen to her true Self and discover her own mission or calling in the world.
Old Habits Create Scarcity
Lots of things in your life keep you from discovering your most important priorities. These are mostly outside expectations and the very real need to find enough money to meet your basic needs for food and shelter and other things you think will contribute to your comfort and well-being.
However, as philosopher Eric Hoffer said, “You can never get enough of what you don't need to make you happy.”
The problem is that you have probably been surrounded by media messages giving you the opposite story. The message is, “You need this thing (whatever it may be) in order to be happy. Buy it now!”
This bombardment helps you create a fantasy that you should have more. This fantasy becomes even stronger if your family, work associates and friends all believe it, too, and compete to show off their latest acquisitions.
And if your financial prospects are limited because of circumstances beyond your control, you may feel even more deprived. You may create fantasies about what you should have and, perhaps, who is to blame because you don’t have it.
If you can, you get so busy trying to earn enough money to buy the things you are brainwashed to believe you need that you feel anxious and stressed. You rarely stop to notice that the happiness you do find lasts for only a short time—because you can’t ever experience enough of something when it isn’t what you really need.
Trying to live this way, whether or not you are successful at getting enough money to acquire “stuff,” creates a sense of scarcity. But if, like Helena, you’ve spent years in this pattern, changing can feel very threatening.
You Try to Fill the Void
If you have not sorted out your priorities and don’t know what your life mission is, it is easy to get sidetracked and allow this outside energy to define you and what you believe you should have.
You try to solve the problem in ways that don’t work and often make the problem worse. You keep trying to get enough of something to make you happy, but it does not help, because is not what you really need. (Knowing your life mission guides you to choose what you need to fulfil it.)
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