The Yummy Marriage

If you think about marriage objectively, the whole thing seems a bit silly. You commit, usually early on in life, to spend the rest of your years, longer than you’ve been alive, with a person who you likely have only known for a year or two. And yet, people continue to get married and hope to stay married for a long time. What makes it work?

Knowing what to expect from your marriage and having a shared commitment to making it work go a long way in the success of a marriage. I call this a long-term committed marriage. It happens when both parties agree verbally or nonverbally that they are truly dedicated to each other for their lifetime. This is more than saying your vows—it’s really believing in that commitment.

The beauty of making this kind of long-term commitment is that it allows each person the freedom to be themselves with less fear of losing their spouse. No one is walking on eggshells or hiding their true selves. Instead, the spouses know that they will work through their challenges and struggles together “no matter what.”

 A long-term marriage creates a safe environment to grow as individuals and to support each other with love and kindness, even on those days when you don’t like each other very much.