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Margie Hackbarth
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Amaging(TM) Growing Old On Purpose
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Author Insight
Are you thinking with the enemy?
I coined this phrase, "thinking with the enemy," to describe the verbal abuse we sometimes give ourselves with self talk. With older adults HOW we talk to ourselves is important, because self-talk impacts how well we handle adversity, and a lot of adversity comes with more years lived! When problems arise what are some ways to avoid worst-case thinking? Reframe our situations in a more positive way? Challenge our automatic beliefs, even a little? The good news is that optimism can be learned - at any age. Read more in Amaging(TM) Growing Old On Purpose, available where most book-readers shop.
Book Excerpt
Amaging(TM) Growing Old On Purpose
Is there a disconnect between how you talk to others and your self-talk? In Nancy Price’s 1987 novel, Sleeping with the Enemy, the main character Laura (played by Julia Roberts in the movie) is married to a charming and wealthy businessman who cruelly controls and abuses her—all behind closed doors. Laura’s friends and family think she is married to a loving and supportive husband, when in fact she is sleeping with the enemy. Her marriage was all a façade.
I mention this story as a lead-in to the question, “What is your self-talk like?” Are the words in your mind kind and considerate of other people, yet harsh and uncaring toward yourself? Do you criticize yourself more than necessary? Do you talk to yourself like Laura’s cruel husband talks to Laura in Sleeping with the Enemy, and battling your own internal verbal abuse? Are you thinking with the enemy?
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