If you've been asking yourself questions about why it seems that we just can't get it right in our relationships, and you want more, this is the blueprint to help you navigate during your search. In this book the author uses his life experiences, and those of several men and women of different ethnicities, ages, and cultures to give relationship advice to both sexes. The author has travelled the world and put in over 5 years of research travelling to over 25 countries discussing these topics. The Truth provides answers to today's most pressing issues about relationships, and lays out the roadmap to help you navigate. This book will appeal to readers interested in relationships self-help books.
Songwriter, Music producer & engineer, graphics designer, NOTHING that screams author. Father of 2 boys and a girl, Husband, and now Author. Never intended to become an author it just sort of happened. I've been playing the piano since about 7. Moving into the next phase of my life helping people with their relationships.
We should examine a person's character and hearts rather than their assets and cup sizes.
The Truth: Keepin' It 100
One of my friends told his woman that if she ever got over 300 pounds, he would leave her. I know that sounds mean but I understood where he was coming from. He had been with her for several years, and they had a few kids together, and she had gained some weight, and constantly mentioned she wanted to lose it, but never did anything about it. She made the excuse that she had gotten “happy” and she wanted to get sexy again. My friend told me that he was serious about leaving her if she reached that 300 pound mark. He said it wasn’t the 300 pounds that would make him leave, but the fact she had gotten lazy and hadn’t bothered addressing a potential problem. The important thing here to note is that she had no intentions, meaning she didn’t care. He would occasionally mention the issue, and she would take offence no matter how nicely he said it. He was getting tired of seeing her that way, and he started noticing other women. We would be out for dinner and he’d say, “See, look at that over there. Nice rump, nice breasts, my lady used to be like that.” He clearly still cared about her and loved her, but he was bothered that she had let herself slip into that position. Don’t put us in this position, ladies. We don’t want to hurt your feelings, and we don’t want to feel awkward because we don’t know how to say, “Hey you need to lose some weight, you’re getting fat.” Get yourself to the gym! Keep your standards high for yourself, for your health, and for your man. Doing this for your man is important because this book is about relationships, and not about your personal feelings or self-esteem, or self- motivation. You women expect standards, and rightfully so, but don’t slack on your own standards. You can’t expect to get the guy you want if you don’t do your part.
When it comes to standards, most people neglect this next one, and it’s really important. Religion. If you’re looking for something with longevity, religion has to be addressed in the ‘getting it all out on the table’ discussion. If one person is religious, and the other isn’t, or if both people aren’t of the same religion, then you probably don’t want to waste any more time. What happens down the line when you’ve been together for three years or six, and you want to get married, but your partner doesn’t believe in marriage, and what if that’s a concrete principle of your religion or faith? I consider myself a Christian, and I personally believe that if you enter into a relationship you should be eventually looking towards getting married in that relationship and not just passing time or having fun. Religion can determine who you choose, and how you pick a potential mate. It can also go as far as small things in the relationship such as tattoos, for example. The Bible mentions not joining with someone who doesn’t at least have the same religious principles or morals as yourself. But what about the people who are atheists or don’t have any beliefs about a deity or a religion? They still enter into relationships. So with that said, even if you guys are really feeling each other, eventually this will become an issue that you have to address. One of my favorite authors says there are a few things you have to have a serious talk about and be in agreement on related to marriage or long term relationships. Those things are religion, children, money, and in-laws. I agree with this. Once again, I’m a Christian, so I wouldn’t talk about any of those things without at least planning to marry the woman. As a side note I’m not perfect, and I don’t claim to be a perfect Christian, so I still have some work to do. But I’m also a realist. These are the things people fail to get out on the table that could be a big snare in the relationship. Lots of people ignore this very important aspect. They court, they date, they hook up, things go well…so well that they don’t bother to address the issue of religion, and once they do, they’ll find out they aren’t quite as perfect of a match as they thought. It’s something to think about. How do you handle the situation? Do you compromise, accept it, reject it, and how do you close the situation? If you include this in the initial discussion about important things it can save a lot of wasted time.
When I look at a woman, I’m most attracted to her in her work attire. Any woman can put on makeup and a nice dress. That’s how you get tricked. When I was younger, I used to look at a woman’s assets and physical features, but you all have it. Every woman has a rump and breasts. Of course they vary in size, but in the grand scheme of things, they don’t matter much. My mind frame used to never go beyond the physical. And that’s what happens sometimes with ladies too. I know we all like pretty things, but what happened to the fixer-uppers? We should examine a person’s character and hearts rather than their assets and cup sizes.