Izzy could hear my eyes roll as he explained his plans to play a third round of golf for the week. Early in our relationship, we would have “discussions” (more like arguments) about the amount of golf he played. I’m not a golfer, and I found his hobby very time consuming and interfering with plans to do other weekend activities. “Why can’t golf take the same amount of time as a yoga class?” I would say to him during these talks.
During one discussion, as we were going back and forth about the time and the cost of this diversion, I found myself saying, “I’m not annoyed you are playing golf. I’m annoyed you get access to people I don’t have the opportunity to get access to.” I realized I was jealous. For example, only a week prior, he had played golf with the CEO of a well-known company. Golf isn’t just a way to meet people and shake hands. It takes four to five hours to play. That is a significant amount of time to get to know someone as a little white (or in Izzy’s case, yellow) ball gets hit around a big grassy area with sand—eighteen times. A round of golf can lead to deeper associations, which can result in more business deals, career opportunities, and access to investments.
I’ve told this story many times, from dinner with friends to keynote speeches. Sometimes people ask me why I didn’t “just play golf.” Unfortunately, that’s not the solution. Even if I wanted to play golf, women don’t have the same access to the broad network of people my husband has through golf. According to the National Golf Foundation, 77 percent of men in the US play golf, and only 22 percent of women. Maybe if I spent hours and hours practicing I could get good enough at golf to be able to hold my own on the course to play with some of the people my husband gets access to. But I would not be getting access to women in the same way, as they aren’t on the golf course. My quest has been to find a “golf course” that was more in line with networking how I want to. Angel investing has given me that opportunity.
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