You Should Distractions & Detours to Divine Destiny

“You Should” Defined

Girl, you’re so pretty, you really should consider becoming a model. Son, your father and I think that the whole notion of becoming a musician is not practical and think you should get a four-year degree in something that will lead to a successful career. Or perhaps you should look into going to a trade school. Man, why do you want to take a job so far away from home? I think you should take a job a little closer to home so you can be closer to your family. You know 95% of businesses fail in the first five years, I think you should think twice before starting a business in this economy. You have two kids in college; it’s probably not the right time to make that kind of move. You really should stick with your full-time job.

It is all too common to hear these type sentiments as we try to find our direction in life. To the extent that you follow these voices, Dr. Henry Cloud says that “you will end up being not who you are but who they decide you are going to be. You will have lost control of yourself,” (Cloud, 2008). I have seen this “direction in life” called many things: “vision,” “purpose of God,” “the call of God on your life,” your “lane,” your “there,” your “place,” your “best self,” “finding yourself,” your “sweet spot,” your “destiny,” your “wealthy place,” the place where you achieve your “greatest potential,” and countless other things. All these ideas carry the same connotation: there is a unique place for you and finding that place will make you successful.

Though others may share our nationality, race, gender, location, passions, even parents, we are all different. We are all uniquely created by God to do something. In this book, I have called that something “you should.” It is something that you must discover, and it will be the most meaningful discovery of your life. We all have different visions implanted within us to lead us to accomplish the unique vision of God for our lives. The fact that we're all different is a testimony to the greatness of a God who could make billions and billions of people, all different, all unique, all with different visions and purposes and plans to accomplish on the Earth. Discovering our “you should” and walking it out then helps to reflect glory to the Father who created you and planted you here for a specific destiny.