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What are boundaries?

What would happen if you were driving down the interstate highway and there were no white lines on the highway—you can drive at any speed and in any direction. What a wild, chaotic mess! With time as their enemy, that is how some people live their lives. A person who lives their life without priorities or boundaries is constantly running from one emergency to another, out of control, using everyone and everything in their obsessive game of power and control until one day, they have a heart attack, car accident, lose their job, or worse, their life.

When we think of boundaries, we think of limits. Boundaries give us a sense of what is part of us and what is not part of us, what we will allow and what we won’t, and what we will choose to do and what we choose not to do. My boundaries look like ten acres of land I call my Garden of Eden. My Garden is protected by an invisible energy field called an aura. 1 We all have this energy field around us. Remember being in an elevator and feeling the person next to you, but you really didn’t touch  them? That is what I call my “ten acres” of energy; it is an aura of invisible light. It is important to honor your own personal ten acres and care for it.

1 as defined in The Auric Mirror by Ella Vivian Power

Our attitudes are our opinions about something. We are responsible for our own attitudes, for they exist inside our “property line,” our Garden of Eden. They are within our hearts, not someone else’s. God tells us to examine and take responsibility for the attitudes and beliefs that govern our lives. They form the structure of our personality. In the beginning of life, we “soak up” attitudes; as we mature, we need to take responsibility for making sure our opinions are ours and not someone else’s. We choose them.

Honoring our self and honoring other people as separate from us is also an aspect of boundaries. Separateness is an important aspect of human identity. How can we be connected to others without losing our identity and individuality? We are to master the art of “being me without losing you.” Without boundaries, people are needy and demand a lot of attention.

When there are unclear boundaries in any relationship, anger and resentment occur as each person projects their unfulfilled need to be taken care of onto the other person. Developing our separateness involves knowing what our boundaries are. Knowing these boundaries helps us develop our separate and unique personalities.

 “Treat others the same way you want them to treat you.”

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Be courteous and have good manners. Always treat a human being as a person, that is, as an end in themselves and not merely a means to an end. Strive to impart dignity and self-worth to all you meet. Your character is shown in many ways, but one of the most obvious is the way you treat people. You will grow in character and reputation if you treat others with kindness.

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Imagine driving down the interstate highway with no white lines on the highway, driving at any speed and in any direction.

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People without priorities or boundaries are constantly running from one emergency to another, out of control.

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When we think of boundaries, we think of limits. Boundaries give us a sense of what is part of us and what is not part of us.

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Boundaries are like ten acres of land called the Garden of Eden, protected by an invisible energy field called an aura.

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We all have an aura. Imagine being in an elevator and feeling the person next to you, but you really didn’t touch them.

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Surrounding you is your invisible aura. Honor your Garden of Eden and care for it.

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We are responsible for our own attitudes, for they exist inside our “property line,” our Garden of Eden.

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God tells us to examine and take responsibility for the attitudes and beliefs that govern our lives.

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In life, we “soak up” attitudes; as we mature, we take responsibility for our opinions and not someone else’s.

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Honoring our self and honoring other people as separate from us is also an aspect of boundaries.

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Separateness is a part of human identity. How can we be connected to others without losing our identity and individuality?

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Strive to impart dignity and self-worth to all you meet. Character is shown in the way you treat people.

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You will grow in character and reputation if you treat others with kindness.

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Imagine that you are standing in your Garden of Eden. What does it look like? Where is it? Who is with you?