From Heartbreak to Healing

Self-Help

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Synopsis

Fixed - 10/23/2020

From Heartbreak to Healing is a comprehensive introduction to a common but often unrecognizes family dynamic called parental alienation, which is a serious form of both child and spouse abuse that occurs when one parent turns their child against the other parent for no justified reason—often during divorce or separation. It is a serious form of both child and spouse abuse that occurs throughout the world.

This go-to book for parents who do not know what to do when their child rejects them, is based on the author’s personal experience as an alienated parent years before the experience had a name. It reveals her story and how she healed her own grief, summarizes her research of the literature on this new field of parental alienation, and shares the results of the author’s nation-wide survey to interview other rejected parents firsthand about their experience of alienation.
Topics include:

What parental alienation is and how it works
Who teaches their child to reject the other parent and why
Stories of other alienated parents
How to find and screen parental alienation-qualified professionals
What works to resolve alienated relationships
Next steps YOU can take to help erase and prevent parental alienation

As a recommended resource on the International Parental Alienation Sudy Group website, this book is an excellent resource for social, legal, and mental health professions who want to understand and provide best practices to families suffering from parental alienation.

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Author Biography

Cara is the author of the book, From Heartbreak to Healing: Resolving Parental Alienation After 43 years as an alienated parent with a professional background in child development and family relationships where she managed child development programs serving working parents and their children, plus a doctorate in children’s [innate]spirituality, she finds answers to her questions: “Why me? How did this happen? and What is the purpose?” Through a process of deep introspection, she overcame decades of depression, despite remaining unreconciled with her son. She has now discovered resources, formerly unavailable, that could have led to a different outcome.

Author Insight

When a Child is Forced to Choose

: Because one of the basic tenants of child development is that children need a relationship with both of their parents to reach optimum well-being and to develop to their full potential, a critical parenting skill is parents' ability to support their child’s relationship with the child's other parent. A parent’s inability to do this may be an indication of a personality disorder in that parent. Although traditional family therapy considers both parents to be equally responsible for their relationship, this is not true in the case of parental alienation. When one parent, for example due to a personality disorder, does not have the ability to support a child’s relationship with their other parent, or show empathy for other points of view within the family, traditional family therapy does not work. In severe parental alienation cases, a different approach to therapy is required. The psychological splitting that occurs in severe parental alienation is not naturally outgrown as a child matures. Rather, it can cause unresolved PTSD, life-long difficulty in relating to others, and other emotional problems that may eventually cause physical health problems as well.

Book Excerpt

From Heartbreak to Healing

When a child is subjected to increasing amounts of parental alienation, he or she may respond with a psychological defense called “psychological splitting.” The eight symptoms of parental alienation in a child arise from this defense.

As explained by clinician Karen Woodall, splitting occurs when a child can no longer hold together the two parts of his or her “Self” that is formed from both relationships with two parents who are too far apart for the transition bridge to work. When this tipping point is reached, it causes the child to develop a “false self.” This false self is one that results when the part of himself formed from the targeted parent is denied and deeply buried so he can hold together the rest of his Self. This false self forces the child to see the world through a lens that divides it into all good and all bad. Therefore, the child sees the alienating parent as all good and the targeted parent can do nothing right.

Target parents must realize how terrifying this experience is for their child. It is also critical for others to realize that it is equally horrific for target parents to watch their relationship with their child disappear before their eyes as they feel helpless to counteract it.

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Cara E Koch

From Heartbreak to Healing

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Author Insight

When a Child is Forced to Choose

Book Excerpt

From Heartbreak to Healing

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