From Heartbreak to Healing

Self-Help

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Synopsis

Fixed - 10/23/2020

From Heartbreak to Healing is a comprehensive introduction to a common but often unrecognizes family dynamic called parental alienation, which is a serious form of both child and spouse abuse that occurs when one parent turns their child against the other parent for no justified reason—often during divorce or separation. It is a serious form of both child and spouse abuse that occurs throughout the world.

This go-to book for parents who do not know what to do when their child rejects them, is based on the author’s personal experience as an alienated parent years before the experience had a name. It reveals her story and how she healed her own grief, summarizes her research of the literature on this new field of parental alienation, and shares the results of the author’s nation-wide survey to interview other rejected parents firsthand about their experience of alienation.
Topics include:

What parental alienation is and how it works
Who teaches their child to reject the other parent and why
Stories of other alienated parents
How to find and screen parental alienation-qualified professionals
What works to resolve alienated relationships
Next steps YOU can take to help erase and prevent parental alienation

As a recommended resource on the International Parental Alienation Sudy Group website, this book is an excellent resource for social, legal, and mental health professions who want to understand and provide best practices to families suffering from parental alienation.

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Author Biography

Cara is the author of the book, From Heartbreak to Healing: Resolving Parental Alienation After 43 years as an alienated parent with a professional background in child development and family relationships where she managed child development programs serving working parents and their children, plus a doctorate in children’s [innate]spirituality, she finds answers to her questions: “Why me? How did this happen? and What is the purpose?” Through a process of deep introspection, she overcame decades of depression, despite remaining unreconciled with her son. She has now discovered resources, formerly unavailable, that could have led to a different outcome.

Author Insight

Response to a Brainwashed Child

If you are a parent whose formerly loving child has suddenly become resistant or hostile toward you, you may be shocked and hurt, not knowing how to respond. The first thing you must do is determine the cause. Find out IF your child is being brainwashed. The Five Factor Method described in my book is the recommended way to do this. Once you are clear about the cause, it is important that you learn all you can about the psychological split your child is experiencing that causes you to be seen as all bad and the other parent all good. This will help you have compassion for your child, who is no longer able to think for him/herself. You then realize the unacceptable behavior is not an issue of discipline; you realize you need to find a way to connect with your child to counter the manipulation. This begins with a compassionate response such as, "That must feel awful to you, believing that you cannot trust me, your own mother! No wonder you are so angry! If I had believed that about my mother, I would have been just as angry." With this response, your child experiences you as compassionate, and that you are trustworthy of understanding his/her feelings.

Book Excerpt

From Heartbreak to Healing

Parental alienation usually begins with subtle manipulation as the alienator first makes sure the child feels dependent on him/her (the alienator), then shows displeasure with the child about any positive interaction between the child and the other parent (the target). Eventually, the child becomes fearful of retaliation for showing any positive feelings toward his/her other parent. This manipulative behavior then progresses from “the silent treatment” to actions like blocking the child’s interaction with the other parent, withholding or rejecting gifts, or not sharing the child’s medical or school records, for example.

Some parents will bad-mouth the other parent, make up stories, and even try to relocate, going so far as to change the name of the child. During this time the alienator is using this manipulative “red ink behavior” to blackmail the child emotionally to reject the other parent and be totally dependent on him/her.

Another part of the manipulation is to convince the child that the other parent does not love him/her, is dangerous, or cannot be trusted. Most alienators are conscious of what they are doing, although occasionally they may be unaware. The purpose is to exact revenge for perceived wrongs. Often, though not always, this misperception of wrongs is caused by a personality disorder.

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Cara E Koch

From Heartbreak to Healing

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Response to a Brainwashed Child

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From Heartbreak to Healing

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